I'm making a vow, right now, to never use someone's past against them if they have made a conscious effort to be better. We do it all the time. Every day. Especially now that everything seems to be so politically charged. But at what point do we just let go? At what point do we… Continue reading Don’t you judge me.
There is a word that has become quite popular in the past two years. It’s a word that is the main theme in many of my articles, mainly “The Lingering Effects of Assault”. The word is “trigger” and if you’re a survivor of assault or have PTSD, if you’ve been the victim of a sex… Continue reading Triggered.
Halloween this year was quite significant for me. Every year, I go all out. I spend a lot of time on my costumes. I take it very seriously, and a few years I have even won the top prize at the costume contests that are scattered throughout the bars in town. I love getting into… Continue reading Masks
I make fun of myself a lot. I do that because it makes me feel better about the things I’m insecure about. And because I don’t want anyone to really know that I’m insecure about it because that just makes me look insecure. Anyways, in recent weeks, I’ve gained a few pounds. OK, more than… Continue reading No, I didn’t let myself go. I just let go.
Have you ever met someone and within minutes you feel like you know them because of the “vibe” you get from them? It’s a gut feeling that tells you whether you really want to get to know them better or if you should run. Have you spent time with someone and the moment they’re gone… Continue reading Bad ju-ju
A dear friend of mine recently suffered an unimaginable loss. As we were eating dinner together and catching up on each other’s lives, her eyes filled with tears and suddenly she was overcome with sadness. She expressed that she felt as though she hasn’t had time to grieve properly and she just couldn’t understand why… Continue reading The healing in sharing.
An elderly man just left my office. He was quite talkative, and honestly, I’m kind of surprised I didn’t find a way to politely wrap up the conversation like I sometimes do on a busy work day. But I could see that he just wanted someone to talk to and he was cheerful and pleasant,… Continue reading Perspective.
Some people will always have a problem with you, no matter what you do. You can become defensive, bothered and hurt. You can let it bring you down and ruin your day. You can allow the opinions of someone else consume you and get under your skin. Or you can choose to not give a… Continue reading The one constant.
“I am finally loved by someone who makes me feel free.” – Michelle Williams. I get it. I finally get it! I read that line in a Vanity Fair article and I just kept reading it over and over because it sunk into me so deeply. “I am finally loved by someone who makes me… Continue reading The wall.
Being insecure means constantly explaining yourself. It’s the need for validation and reassurance. It’s wanting approval and justifying every move you make. It’s panic when you feel like you’ve let someone down or maybe you didn’t say the right thing. It’s desperately seeking acceptance. But mostly, it’s just exhausting. Being the people-pleaser that I am,… Continue reading No explanation needed.